gottman · From the library

Bids for Connection: the small moments that matter

Couples who "turn toward" small bids for attention stay together far more often.

Evidence: ★★★★★

A *bid* is any attempt to connect — a comment, a question, a touch. In Gottman's research, couples who stayed together turned toward bids ~86% of the time; those who split, ~33%.

Practice: notice your partner's next bid and respond with genuine interest.

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